Monday, April 15, 2013

Deep Thoughts with Dove Chocolate

So Dove came out with a new cookies and cream flavor recently--they're really yummy. 



And, as usual, they have inspirational phrases written on the inside of the wrappers that may or may not have any connection to the reality of your life.  I've been getting ones that say this: 

"Happiness never decreases by being shared."  

One of my friends, upon hearing that statement, immediately said, "It depends."  She definitely thought there were times when sharing your joy with someone didn't make the happiness meter go up for everyone or even anyone involved.  

I wasn't so sure, but then I remembered:  There have been times when I have had exciting experiences as a writer, been very HAPPY, told someone about it, and then only felt awkward because they didn't really understand, or reacted in a way I didn't expect them to--say, by implying that my expectations were too high or that I was working myself too hard. 

Does anyone get what I'm talking about here?  Have you ever tried to explain a moment of writer joy (or any kind of joy) with someone, and then wished you had kept it to yourself? 

Maybe it's just me...

9 comments:

  1. Oh, very definitely on writer-joys or reader-joys or watcher-joys. Sometimes I've finished a book and it was so good I immediately want to tell people about it, but the only people around me aren't readers in the same way, so they don't understand, and trying to make them understand only makes me frustrated and the book and my love of it seem silly.

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  2. Oh I agree....I thought the same thing after reading the quote. Sometimes people JUST DON'T CARE! Or they react COMPLETELY differently then how you imagined.

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  3. I'm pretty much used to people not getting half as excited as I am about whatever it is that's got me pumped. I've got two little sisters who refuse to fake enthusiasm. X) Fortunately, I don't need a crowd to geek out about something; empathetic "squee"s from others are nice, but not necessary.

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  4. I do know what you mean. Sometimes, actually quite often, you've got to know who is right to share certain info so it will be appreciated and "shared." Isn't that why people are lonely, because they don't have that one person to share their everyday joys with.

    Hershey's had a good idea, but I think they should change that saying to something more like, "Happiness can grow bigger if shared." Writer’s Mark

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  5. I've known people to react quite adversely to someone's expression of joy. Most of the time, the person reacting badly is in a bad mood. Often they want to stay in that bad mood, and would rather people knew about their bad mood than your good mood. Almost as if they feel threatened by your joy.

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  6. I completely agree with what you've said here. I've run into the same kinds of situations. But I thought of another example: sometimes your happiness hits on a sore spot with someone else. If your happiness reminds them of something they haven't found similar success with--getting published, landing a dream job, having a baby--it can have the opposite effect.

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  7. If you're going for the same job as a friend, or something that just looks similar (like getting a book published) then I can certainly imagine times when it's better to reign in your enthusiasm.

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  8. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, everyone! (And for the sympathy!) I guess it's a good thing we have communities like this where we can find so many people who understand what makes us happy. :)

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  9. I've definitely experienced this. Both as a writer and entrepreneur. When people don't get it, they can diminish your feelings of success, make you feel dumb for being happy about it, or at times be jealous or antagonistic. It's made me be a little more careful about how I react to others, and try to feel and express joy for their happiness, even when I don't get it or really care.

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